Friday, May 18th, 2018
Change is Good!
"When you are not living and loving, you are dying."
-52 year old male client, a physician
If you are reading this column, then it is likely that you are a home-owner or a business person living in an established community. You may be single, divorced, or widowed, and chances are...over the age of 35. It’s hard to get to a "certain age" and not experience a relationship challenge or break-up. As the song says, "Breaking up is hard to do." Yet, when it’s all said and done, a break-up can actually turn out to be one of the most positive experiences of your life.
Here are some observations and answers to questions that I have received over the course of my 27 years as the Florida Matchmaker.
"How long does it take to get over a relationship?" There is no magic number. In my opinion, the grieving period for a relationship that has ended doesn’t actually start the day it ends, it begins the day you know it is going to end. For example, couples that stayed together twenty years "for the children" usually hit the dating circuit soon after splitting. After all, they have been in a "time out" while married many years. Then there are couples where one partner has no idea the other is unhappy, and one day it’s suddenly OVER. For these individuals, the person who had no idea often suffers more and longer.
"I feel sorry for the person I am breaking up with and can't hurt them. What should I do?" Be true. It does you no good to stay in a loveless relationship, nor does it do the other person any good.
You are living a false life and holding them back, as well as yourself. Don't sacrifice your years and theirs if you are not happy. Let it go and let them go. There is a better fit for both of you out there.
"What if I can't find someone to love me again in this wild world?" The sooner you move on the better. Side with LOVE, which is opposite of FEAR. Be your own best friend...and go...cut it clean and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea...go out and start your own revolution of love (whatever you do, do not join an online dating club). Surround yourself with other high quality singles, like yourself. This is actually the main reason why the Revolution Dating club has soared to the top of the charts in Florida. Like attracts like and the good singles are joining Revolution Dating daily.
On this note, break-ups aren’t restricted to romantic relationships and can involve many types of changes (from switching jobs to trying a new hairstyle to moving to a new home). If a situation, person, place or thing is NO LONGER WORKING FOR YOU, then it is time to go. You owe it to yourself, your children, and friends to follow your dreams. Take a leap of faith! Be the change and the Universe will love you for it. My words are tried true and tested...and as a result, my clients, family, and team are experiencing more love, peace and laughter then ever before. We invite you to join us and start the Summer of Love 2018 right, with a great person in your corner!
Again thanks for kicking off your weekend with me, and finally meeting in person--we called in a full staff tomorrow, so make that call now!
Much Love, Kelly XOXO
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Kelly Leary, Founder and President of Revolution Dating has a master’s degree in psychology and 27 successful years in the dating industry. A top matchmaker, now known as THE Florida Matchmaker, she has been profiled by ABC News, The Palm Beach Post, PalmBeacher Magazine, The South Florida Business Journal, and numerous other media outlets.