It took a while for her to figure out she could run but when she did she was long gone, long gone..." Keith Urban
If you are reading this column, then it is likely that you are a home-owner or a business person living in an established community. You may be single, divorced, or widowed, and chances are...over the age of 40. It's hard to get to a "certain age" and not experience a relationship challenge or break-up. Yet, when it's all said and done, a break-up can actually turn out to be one of the most positive experiences of your life. In this respect, time is on your side.
Here are a few common core questions that may help you start your engine:
"How long does it take to get over a relationship?"
There is no magic number. In my opinion, the grieving period for a relationship that has ended doesn't actually start the day it ends, it begins the day you know it is going to end. For example, couples that stayed together twenty years "for the children" usually hit the dating circuit soon after splitting. After all, they have been in a "time out" while married many years. Then there are couples where one partner has no idea the other partner is unhappy, and one day it's suddenly OVER. For these individuals, the person who had no idea often suffers more and longer.
"I feel sorry for the person I am breaking up with and can't hurt them. What Should I do?"
Be true. It does you no good to stay in a loveless relationship, nor does it do the other person any good. You are living a false life and holding them back as well as yourself. Don't sacrifice your years and theirs if you are not happy. Let it go and let them go. There is a better fit for both of you out there.
What if I can't find someone to love me again in this wild world?"
The sooner you move on the better. Side with LOVE, which is opposite of FEAR. Be your own best friend...and go...cut it clean and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea...go out and start your own revolution of love. (Just don't go bottom feeding and look for love on Plenty of Fish. LOL. No one should aspire to join the cheapest dating club in town. Quite the contrary: IF you are looking for a sincere and secure person.)
On this note, break-ups aren't restricted to romantic relationships and can involve many types of changes (from switching jobs to trying a new hairstyle to moving to a new home). If a situation, person, place or thing is NO LONGER WORKING FOR YOU, then, it is time to go. You owe it to yourself, your children and friends to follow your dreams. Take a leap of faith! Be the change and the Universe will love you for it. My words are tried and true and tested...and as a result, my clients, family, and team are experiencing more love, peace and laughter than ever before. We invite you to join us this Spring. Soon summer will be here and we have so much planned for all of you! You can revolutionize your life too!
Thank you for sharing your Sunday with me again! Happy Living! Happy Loving!
Much Love, Kelly XOXO
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